A Simpler Motherhood

What I’m Loving in September

Fall officially begins this week. Shorter days, crisp multi-colored leaves, and a month or so of beautiful, perfect weather (fingers crossed). September seems to be another new year, ushering in a fresh start and a time to begin again. There is so much to love right now, so let’s get to it. Here is what I’m loving in September.

What I’m Loving in September

Afternoon Walks

This summer I was taking early morning walks to watch the sunrise. Since the sun isn’t rising until after my day has begun, I have switched to afternoon walks while my kids are at quiet time. It would be easy to let my walks fall away, but I have realized I enjoy them so much. The only person who can make my walks happen is me, so (almost) everyday from 3:00-3:30 I walk. For me, it is time well spent.

Warm Coffee and Homemade Syrup

The mornings have been cooler and I don’t mind it one bit. Having a cup of coffee late morning is one of my favorite things. I recently made my own homemade syrup using brown sugar, water, vanilla, and cinnamon and it is better than I anticipated. I use my Nespresso to make a warm (usually decaf) latte after school and it’s one way I celebrate the everyday, ordinary things.

New sneakers

I had been wearing the same sneakers for several years and they were thoroughly scuffed and ready to be retired. I actually let go of them on Day 3 of A Simpler Motherhood Mins Game. I found my new pair at Evereve and am enjoying them so much. My kids call them ‘touch and feel shoes’ because there are different textures: suede, faux leather, and a furry animal print. They are a bit more fun than my usual plain, black sneakers, which will add some interest to my basic fall and winter wardrobe.

Love People Use Things by Joshua Fields Millburn & Ryan Nicodemus

This new book by The Minimalists is so good. The mantra Love People Use Things is something that can be forgotten quickly in our consumer driven world. I believe most of us 100% agree with loving people and using things, but it’s easy to forget. The mantra and book is a nod to what is really important and living our lives to reflect that.

Mins Game

I have been playing the Mins Game this September and it has been super fun. Decluttering the unnecessary to make room for the necessary always feels good. If I’m being honest, I have been a bit overwhelmed this fall with alllllllll the things. This game has given me something fun and purposeful to look forward to. For those of you playing with me, I hope it’s been inspiring for you as well.

What have you been loving in September?

5 Lessons from Airbnbs

Our family has been staying in Airbnbs, VRBOs, vacation rentals for awhile now. While I love a good hotel pool, Airbnbs just work better for our season of life with four young kids. Today I’m sharing some lessons I’ve learned from staying in Airbnbs when it comes to living with less. Every time we are away these lessons are at the forefront of my mind and remind me why we choose to pursue a simpler way of life. Here are my 5 Lessons from Airbnbs.

5 Lessons from Airbnbs

Lesson 1: Less clutter equals more freedom.

Each time we stay at an Airbnb there is less to care for. Less stuff to put away, less clothes to launder, less mess to pick up. Less to clean, scrub, declutter, organize, hide, etc. Most Airbnbs are sparsly decorated to leave room for the renter’s belongings. The essentials are there: things to cook with, soap and paper towels and toilet paper, furniture for watching movies and sleeping, rugs to make it cozy, and plants to liven up the space. There aren’t a million decorative signs or plates or trinkets lying around on the counters or desks. Those are left out to make room for the things needed to live life.

Every time we stay at an Airbnb, I come home wanting to declutter. Why? Because when I stay in someone else’s home with only the essentials I feel light and there is freedom in it. I want more freedom and I know that means less stuff.

Lesson 2: Keep the best.

There are almost never ratty towels in the bathroom of an Airbnb. Nor are there a million pens in the junk drawer or broken toys in the toy bin or old, forgotten trinkets on the counter. What if we decided we didn’t need those things either? What if we kept only the best towels, the pens we enjoyed using, the usable toys (see a post about toys here), the treasured trinkets on the counter? Keeping the best, the wanted, the valuable makes life a little more special, don’t you think?

Lesson 3: Use what we have.

At the beginning of a trip, we always stop at the grocery store to grab food for our stay. Bacon, eggs, butter, bread, fruit, coffee. My goal is to use up all we have before we leave. What if we did the same at home? Instead of buying more at the store or popping into Target for one or two things, what if we took a week or a month to use what we have? Use up the leftovers, thaw and use the frozen meat, eat up the snacks in the pantry before buying more. This is something I have been working on and will continue to challenge myself to use what we have.

Lesson 4: One is enough.

One good knife for cutting veggies. One television to cozy up and watch a movie together. One good skillet for frying up bacon. In an Airbnb many times one is enough. Of course there are categories where one isn’t enough. Silverware and towels and paper towels. However, I think we can make our lives simpler when we decide one is enough when it comes to certain things. Keep in mind, this will change and evolve over time.

In our current season, one television is enough for our family. In the future, that could change. Our family also lives with one set of sheets per bed. That could change as well. Where one is enough for our family, it might not be enough for your’s. Think through if there are areas in your home where one is enough.

Lesson 5: Explore and enjoy more.

Whenever we stay in an Airbnb, we are motivated and excited to get out and explore the destination. Our family goes to parks, the beach, museums. We take walks, enjoy new restaurants, and make it a priority to spend time together as a family. We don’t need to go to an Airbnb to do that. Yes, there is more work to do at home. Yes, we have commitments and priorities and schedules. But what if we also took the time to explore our communities more as a family? What if we made life more enjoyable by doing things together? Life is meant to be enjoyed so let’s take the time and enjoy more of it.

Pursuing an intentional life with less is a journey. What is one way you could live with less today?

What I’m Loving In August

August is the Sunday of Summer. While we savor these last days, I want to share what I’m loving in August.

What I’m Loving in August

Harvest Time

It’s the time of year when we are harvesting like crazy from the garden. Tomatoes, cucumbers, zucchinis, peppers, sweet corn from across the road. It’s a small window of abundance and it reminds me to be grateful for this bountiful earth God has so generously given us.

The Four Winds by Kristin Hannah

This novel is heartbreaking, excellently written, and hopeful all at the same time. I have enjoyed all of Kristin Hannah’s work and this is no exception. While it took me longer than I’d like to read this one because #life, I relished each minute I was able to sit in the corner of the couch with this book in my hands. I absolutely need a next read recommendation, so if you have any, send them my way!

Rhythms

While we have been trucking away at school for over a month now, we eased back into our rhythms. Now that it’s the end of August, we have our fall rhythms mostly in place. There is something comforting and peaceful about knowing what to expect and moving through the day with underlying rhythms. Breakfast, chores, school, morning basket, reading time, outside, lunch, reading lessons, screen time, quiet time. Rhythms eliminate the need for some decisions throughout the day and I am grateful for that.

Leggings again

As the weather slowly turns, so does my wardrobe. I have been pulling out my leggings more often these days and have realized I probably need one more pair to get me through the fall and winter since they are a daily staple. I have gone back and forth between Lululemon and everything else. I have decided Lululemon leggings last me the longest while there is almost always something a little off with any other pair I purchase. They are back in my dresser.

Soccer

I didn’t grow up playing soccer, but I am learning the game alongside my kids. Our two bigs are playing this fall season and I am looking forward to watching them do something they both enjoy.

Summer is coming to a close and there is so much to love about the changing of the seasons. What are you loving in August?

A Day in the Life: Summer 2021

It’s fun to look back and remember life at different stages. Today I’m sharing A Day in the Life from this summer, but really we have one foot in summer and one in fall. Here are what our days are looking like lately…

A Day in the Life: Summer 2021

The alarm goes off at 5:10, but I stay in bed until 5:25. Kevin is up and out of bed right away.

When I finally put my feet on the ground, I make the bed and do a Motivated workout. Then I sit down on the couch to read my devotion, pray, and take time to do a few things on my computer. Next I head outside to water the plants and go for a walk and take in the sunrise.

At 6:45 I am inside tidying the house. Dishes put away, blankets folded, a few odds and ends picked up. Around 7:10 I head back to take a quick shower.

Shortly after my shower, Luke ambles out to the living room and snuggles up to me on the couch. Then Kevin brings Jack out and plops him on my lap. I breathe in their sleepy heads and we huddle together on the couch under blankets. A few minutes later Jude comes out for some snuggles.

At 7:30 Kevin feeds the kids breakfast while I finish getting ready, throw some laundry in, and tidy Jack’s room.

It’s 8:20 and the school day begins. Lily and Jude are at the table first, with Luke shortly behind. Lily works on the soft c sound, handwriting, and math. Jude is learning the letters s, a, and t and using magnetic letters today. Luke works on his cursive and math. When Jude finishes up, he heads to the kitchen counter to use play dough with Jack. I try not to look at the mess.

Everyone joins in for play dough after seat work is completed. Around 9:55 I round up all the babes and we head to the couch for our morning basket time. We review state capitals, read our Jesus Calling devotional, pray, and read a few pictures books along with The Year of the Baby.

At 10:25 the kids have talked me into making play dough even though we have a tub of it. Luke finds a YouTube video on how to make it and we mix it up together.

I am nominated to stir the play dough while the kids run outside to play. It is pleasantly quiet. Fifteen minutes later they are back in and we use food coloring to color the dough.

Shortly after the play dough is colored, we watch a short video on Nikola Tesla while Luke takes notes and the others play with their dough. When the video is finished, the kids run off to play. I take a minute to order a few gifts and dresses from Alice and Ames. I then head outside to weed and pick veggies with the kids.

It’s past time for lunch, so I grab leftovers out of the fridge: burgers, salami, cucumbers, blackberries, cheese sticks, go gurts, corn on the cob. Luke makes himself some toast with butter.

After lunch, we all head downstairs to try on shoes to see which ones fit for fall and which ones need to be donated or replaced. The kids head to Lily’s room to build a fort while I clean up the kitchen.

At 1:30 all the kids snuggle up on the couch and read for 10 minutes. I then do reading lessons before screen time. The kids get 10 minutes of screen time while I do a Motivated barre workout.

Around 2:20 I put Jack down for nap and he falls asleep as I put him in his crib. Ten minutes later everyone is in their room for quiet time.

I hustle around and do some office work, write, and look for family picture outfits online.

The kids are up from quiet time at 4:00 and they play in the fort they made in Lily’s room. They usually play outside, but it is outrageously hot this afternoon.

At 4:30 we go for a quick walk to see Grandpa and get corn from the coolers in the shop (the building down the hill from us).

An hour later Jack is up and I am getting dinner going: bacon for BLTs and fresh sweet corn. We eat at 6:45, pretty late for us.

At 7:10 we clean up the kitchen and the kids bathe. I realize Jack has had his pajamas on all day. Luke takes a shower and the younger three take baths. After everyone is clean, Luke puts on a ‘show’ in his room about Nikola Tesla and gives us a scavenger hunt to complete. When the show is over we head to the couch to read books. Kid Scientists, Mercy Watson, and Bible are on the docket.

At 8:00 the kids and Kevin head to Jude’s room to play cars for five minutes before bed. I rinse off quickly in the shower. Then Kevin takes Luke and Lily to deliver corn and veggies to a neighbor, while I put Jude and Jack to bed. When they get back, I read On the Way Home to Lily and say goodnight to Luke. All the kids are in their beds at 8:45.

After all the kids are tucked in for the night, I ready school for the morning and then head to the couch to read The Four Winds by Kristin Hannah. Kevin joins me and we eventually watch a show. At 10:00 we start the dishwasher, watch Jude sleep for a few minutes, and head to bed.

It was an ordinary day, this day in the life, but it was a good one.

Prep for Fall

It’s in the air: the promise of fall. New backpacks and rhythms and football Saturdays. It’s close. Many students are heading back to classrooms in the coming weeks and as quickly as summer was here, it will slip away until next year.

While we still technically have a month of summer, it is beginning to feel like the close of a season. For many, fall is the second new year. Fall means a fresh start: pointy new crayons, clean tennis shoes, and sleepy eyes in the morning. It’s a time to return to good, comforting rhythms and maybe even make some new ones. Before it’s officially here, let’s take some time and Prep for Fall.

Name what matters.

Before we get to the practical and specifics on how to Prep for Fall, let’s think through how we want this upcoming season to feel.

Here are some questions to ask ourselves:

How do we want mornings before school to feel?

How do we want after school to feel?

In what ways do we want to encourage and react when we drop off and pick up?

Homeschooling families: how do we want our days to feel and flow?

The Lazy Genius, Kendra Adachi, suggests: Name what matters.

Let’s take time to name what matters before we get practical and Prep for Fall. For our family, I want the mornings to feel unhurried. I want our days to flow in a way that makes sense: each person having appropriate expectations for our school time. I want the rest of our day to be fun, family time where we explore and do life together. Those are my pie-in-the-sky dreams for this fall. But really and truly naming what matters can help get us to where we want to be.

As always, the following practical tips aren’t going to work for every family. Pick and choose what works and leave the rest.

Prep for Fall

Assess and shop for supplies.

What is needed to begin life in the fall? If kids are going to school, of course there will be school supplies. And if kids are at home, think through supplies needed to learn and create. It’s also smart to process how supplies will be organized and accessed. If you’re a homeschooling family, check out Gather Supplies.

There could be other needs as well. Hooks for backpacks, bins to contain homework and permission slips. A spot to hang and rotate art work. A calendar or planner to keep track of allll the things. Lunchboxes and water bottles and after school snacks. Make a list of needed supplies and then shop.

Write out a rhythm.

Let’s remember and reflect how we want our days to feel and then write out a rhythm. We do not have to live and die by this rhythm. It’s simply a tool to be intentional with our days. Taking the time to think through and write down a daily rhythm is powerful so we can do what we want to do with our days.

When I was a young mom, a more experienced mom was telling me how her mornings had been a struggle for so long. She sat down one day and brainstormed. She figured out if she woke the kids ten minutes earlier it might solve her problem and she was right. It made all the difference and her mornings were more joyful because of that one, small tweak.

When we write out a rhythm or routine, it allows our brain to be aware of how we want our days to look and feel. Once we follow that rhythm day after day, it slowly becomes habit. Let’s intentionally make our days look and feel the way we want them to.

Purge the car.

Let’s start the fall fresh with a clean car. Get a trash bag and ruthlessly declutter the car. Take everything out, maybe even vacuum, and then only put back what you know your family will use this fall. Purging the car is a small thing yielding a big reward.

Create a lunch station.

We all have to eat lunch. Whether kids are at home or going to school, create a lunch station or rhythm that makes lunch simpler. Have bins in the pantry and fridge with items specifically for lunches. Cheese sticks, yogurts, applesauce, individual fruit and veggie baggies, lunch meat, crackers, fruit strips. Whether you or your kids are making lunches, try and make it as streamlined as possible so lunch isn’t a point of frustration.

For our family, I have two ways to keep lunch simple. First, I choose something from each food group to put on plates for lunch. Protein, fruit, veggie, dairy, and a grain. Second, we eat the same thing most days. Peanut butter and jelly sandwich or toast, berries or grapes, sliced peppers or cucumbers, salami, and a cheese stick or yogurt. It might change if we have leftovers to eat up or if I have some chicken nuggets in the freezer, but most of the time we eat the same thing everyday. And incredibly enough, the kids don’t complain much.

Creating a lunch station takes one decision off our plate and conserves brain power.

Stock up.

We all know getting back into the swing of things can be slow process. Let’s help our future fall selves and stock up for a season when sometimes all we want to do is fall into bed at 6:00. Stock up on paper goods, pantry items, and lunch things. Think: paper towels, toilet paper, toiletries, tortilla chips, applesauce, condiments, after school snacks. Stock up on whatever your family needs to function well at the beginning of fall. Take some pressure off by stocking up on items now so you can focus on what matters this fall.

Build in margin.

Fall is an adjustment for everyone, kids included. It is exciting and exhausting. Calendars in hand, let’s take a step back and make sure there is margin built in. After a full week of school and soccer, build in some slow times together over the weekend. If Wednesdays are exceptionally full, make Thursday an evening at home. Look at the weeks and see where margin is needed.

Although it might not be clear to me at the time, I can usually tell after the fact when I have pushed my kids too hard. I have slowly learned how I need to build in margin so we all get the rest and down time we need.

Fall is a time of new beginnings. Let’s do a few things now so we are prepared for the good things ahead. What will you do to Prep for Fall?

10 Ways to Savor Summer

I’m writing this in June. In an Airbnb about 45 minutes from our humble farm house. Yesterday was almost 90 and sunny and today it’s barely 70 and cloudy. Summer in the midwest is unpredictable. It’s also lots of other things. It’s carefree days at the swimming hole and long nights catching fireflies. Summer is freedom and whimsy and spontaneous popsicles at 10 a.m. Since I am smack dab in the middle of summer, I want to meditate on how I can savor it a month from now. How I can hold tight to all the good and glorious. Let’s talk 10 Ways to Savor Summer.

10 Ways to Savor Summer

Say yes.

All those things you have been saying no to all summer. Say yes, at least once. Yes to the pool when it opens. Yes to ice cream before lunch. Even yes to a movie marathon. If you want to take it a step further, watch Yes Day and then make all your kids’ dreams come true (within reason).

Check things off.

Did you make a Summer Bucket List? If you’re like me, it could have been forgotten exactly two weeks after you wrote ‘Go to splash pad’ along with 20 other things you wanted to do this summer. Dig it back out and make a commitment to check things off these last days of summer.

Be spontaneous.

One morning when you’ve had enough coffee, decide to be spontaneous. Take a short road trip to the museum you’ve been wanting to check out. Surprise Grandma and Grandpa with a visit. Splurge and take the kids to the water park. Being spontaneous creates priceless memories for your entire family.

Pretend you’re on vacation.

Take a day or two and pretend your family is on vacation. Sleep late, get take out, make s’mores by the fire (or in the microwave). Whatever you usually do on vacation, try and replicate at home. For our family it looks like exploring somewhere new in the morning, a relaxing afternoon, and a fun kid-chosen dinner.

Ease back into routines.

Whether we like it or not, fall is coming, along with the rhythms and routines to go with it. Let’s make it easier on ourselves and ease back into it. Choose one thing to begin now. Start with an earlier wake time or putting real clothes on each day or moving bedtimes up. When we ease back into routines, it allows our bodies and brains to adjust slowly and ready ourselves for the upcoming season.

Date our kids.

Before the pools close and school begins, let’s date our kids. Schedule one-on-one time for each kid, making sure to get input from each kid on what an ideal date would be. For our family, scheduling one-on-one time is not easy and requires planning and intentionality. I am getting it on the calendar now before time gets away from us.

Plan the get together.

Who is it you want to see this summer? Girlfriends? A family down the street? Those friends you don’t see when school is in session? Send a text now and invite them over or plan a time to get together at the park or pool. Summer can get full, but we will never regret making time for people who matter to us.

Begin something new.

What is something you’ve been wanting to begin, but never have time for? Working out? Quiet time? Reading fiction? Walking? If summer is a bit slower, decide to begin the new thing now so when things pick up, it’s close to becoming a habit.

Take time to give.

Life is lived most fully when we give to others. Where can you give of yourself today? Maybe it’s right in your home; making your husband’s favorite meal. Maybe it’s in your neighborhood; delivering a meal to a new mom. Or maybe it’s in your church or city; loving on others by filling a food pantry or serving meals or holding babies. Take time to give to others. I promise you will get more out of it than you put in.

Purge summer things.

This may be fun for some and really not fun for others. Whatever camp you lie in, it’s still valuable. Carve out an hour to go through and purge summer stuff. Life jackets that no longer fit, broken flip flops, unused sand toys, too short dresses and shorts. If we didn’t use the things this summer, there is a pretty good chance we won’t use them next summer. Of course there are always outliers, but for the most part we can purge a lot of our unused summer items now.

Do the one thing.

What lights you up in the summer? Is it a book, a cold drink, and a quiet afternoon? Maybe it’s an adults only pool day or staying up late to look at the stars. Whatever lights you up, make time for it in the next few weeks. God gave us this one big, beautiful life to live. Let’s live it fully, never taking a day for granted. Do the one thing.

These are just 10 Ways to Savor Summer. There are many ways to hold tight to this magical season. How will you savor summer?

What I’m Loving in July

I’m holding tight to this season. The swimming. The sunshine. The freedom. The eating-outside-so-there’s-a-clean-kitchen. We are still in it and I’m going to savor it as long as I can. Today I’m sharing What I’m Loving in July.

What I’m Loving in July

Independence

My kids are slowly, but surely becoming more independent. Swimming on their own. Swinging on their own. Playing in the backyard on their own. I still have an almost two year old who keeps me on my toes, but the older three are a trio playing and quarreling together. It’s a joy to watch them create games and made up worlds and explore together. And praise Jesus they still get up on my lap or cuddle with me on the couch when they are through.

Bike Shorts

If I could tell my 20 year old self she would be wearing bike shorts to playdates with her four kids, she would laugh in my face. But here I am, wearing bike shorts to playdates and not apologizing for it. My mom wore bike shorts when I was a kid and I remember looking back at pictures thinking they looked absolutely 1000% uncomfortable. Well, turns out I was wrong. (Sorry, Mom.) I want to wear bike shorts everyday because they feel, well, like nothing. I wear them for family bike rides, but I also wear them whenever I feel like it, which is often. My favorites are these from Lululemon.

Summer

Summer has slowly taken a back seat as my favorite season since moving out to the farm. It’s not that I don’t enjoy it, there is just a lot of work that comes along with it. Mowing and weeding come to mind. However, this summer has been a turning point for me. Maybe because my kids are getting older. Maybe because this last year has been weird. Maybe because I’m embracing the season. Whatever the reason, I am truly, unabashedly loving summer. So much that, I might have a hard time when it’s gone.

Homemade Peanut Butter Cups

This might not be the most summer-y thing, but it’s still worth mentioning. For Father’s Day back in June, I made homemade peanut butter cups from Eating Bird Food. My husband hadn’t eaten ‘sweets’ in over seven years and he decided it was time to break his fast. He broke it well. These homemade peanut butter cups are my most favorite peanut butter cup ever. EVER. Dark chocolate, peanut butter, honey, sea salt. I made another batch a few weeks back to keep in the freezer. I don’t regret it.

The Garden

Although weeds are my nemesis, I still love the garden. This year the kids and I planted zinnias and sunflowers among the veggies. The zinnias have been a highlight this year. It’s so rewarding to watch color and life grow from a tiny seed. Zinnias will most certainly be an annual thing at our house moving forward.

There is so much to love about this time of year. What are you loving in July?

Homeschooling Reads for Summer

Last summer about this time there was a lot of chaos and confusion about what the school year would look like. Because of the pandemic, there was a large increase in homeschooling families. In fact, the percentage of homeschooled students in the U.S. jumped from 3% to 8% in just two years. While there isn’t as much unknown for this upcoming school year (praise Jesus), there are still families who will choose to homeschool.

While we all choose different ways of education for our families, I think it’s important to remember there is no ‘perfect education’. Each family and child is different and we are blessed to live in a country where we get to choose what path is best for us. Public school, private school, collaborative school, homeschool. They are all important avenues of education.

Whether we choose to homeschool or not, reading about ways to connect with our kids, parent, and educate (the parent is the first teacher after all), can be helpful, inspiring, and make us better human beings. Today I’m sharing some of my favorite homeschooling reads that have helped me cultivate the at home learning experience. While I am not following any of these books verbatim, I have taken bits and pieces from each one to grow in the way I love, parent, and educate my kids. Some of these are good reads for all parents, while others are specifically homeschooling reads.

Homeschooling Reads for Summer

The Lifegiving Parent by Clay and Sally Clarkson

I’m going to begin with Clay and Sally Clarkson’s book because it’s more of a parenting book than homeschooling book. Sally and Clay lay out the foundation for nurturing and growing our children in a life giving way. Scripture and personal family stories are used as examples to offer practical ways to raise up our kids. Sally and Clay always bring it back to scripture, which I appreciate. I read this book slowly, taking in and applying each of their heartbeats of parental life-giving. This will be one I reread from time to time.

The Read Aloud Family by Sarah Mackenzie

While Sarah Mackenzie provides great resources for homeschooling families, her material is incredibly beneficial for all families. This is my favorite on the list because it is for every family and is so good. Each chapter of The Read Aloud Family will build you up and inspire you to connect with your kids through books. I could not get enough of this one.

Here is an encouraging quote from the book (there were so many): A book can’t change the world on it’s own. But a book can change readers. And readers? They can change the world.

The Unhurried Homeschooler by Durenda Wilson

This is a mercifully short read and one I skim through every summer. It’s a book that reminds parents of the basics: the reasons we began homeschooling in the first place. It’s a good reminder of why we’re doing what we’re doing. I highly recommend this one to every homeschooling parent. It will give you the inspiration needed to start the school year strong.

The Call of the Wild & Free by Ainsley Arment

We’re getting a little deeper on this one. I read this for the first time last year. It stretched me in a lot of ways and helped me see homeschooling in a different way. It begins at the decision to homeschool: defining the why, debunking the myths of homeschooling, and helping parents figure out their homeschooling style. There are about a million ways to homeschool and Arment leads readers down the path of the Wild + Free method. While I don’t fully adopt this method in our family’s homeschool experience, there are incredibly valuable points and pieces of this methodology. If you’re wanting different view points on homeschooling and/or believe in the importance of nature in education, this book is a good read.

The Five Hour School Week by Kaleena Amuchastegui and Aaron Amuchastegui 

If you are really looking to shake things up in your family’s homeschool life, this book is a fantastic read. It’s challenging, engaging, and motivating. I listened to this book and it opened my eyes to how education doesn’t have to look like workbooks and a teacher teaching from a set curriculum. I have seen first hand how my kids’ interest can motivate their learning and this book describes how interest-led learning can be powerful. The authors also stress that education doesn’t have to be achieved inside four walls, but can be attained by traveling and doing everyday life together as a family, which is right up our alley.

It’s always encouraging to get a jolt of inspiration before a new school year begins. However our kids are educated, I believe books help us grow and become better versions of ourselves. I hope these homeschooling reads inspire you to grab a book and learn something new. What are you reading this summer?

P.S. If you’re local and want to borrow any of the books I shared today, I am happy to lend them out!

We took all the toys away.

It was a random weekday morning. It had been a few weeks since we returned from our Intentional Living Experiment in Texas. The sun was shining and it was a surprising warm day for March. Our two oldest kids were quarreling…again. It had been like this for a week now. Bickering with each other and misbehavior we hadn’t seen while we were away. We had worked on slowly easing back into normal life, but our kids were still struggling.

Goodbye Toys Day

In a ‘straw that broke the camel’s back’ moment, my husband took all the toys away. All of them. He calmly told our two oldest kids to pack all the toys up in their rooms and take them to the basement. I watched in astonishment as they did what my well-meaning husband said, thinking selfishly: WHAT IN THE WORLD ARE THESE TWO KIDS GOING TO DO ALL DAY WITHOUT THEIR TOYS. With gritted teeth and a slow head nod, I supported my husband as the kids moved all the toys from their rooms to the spare bedroom in the basement. My husband told the kids the toys would be gone for a week. The timeline was extended after more misbehavior.

Now, some of you may be thinking we are harsh parents. Deprivation and all that. But before you go down that path, let me reassure you. All of the toys weren’t stacked and stored in the basement (even though I said that earlier). The kids still had the shared toys available to all our kids in the toy closet. Magnatiles and wooden blocks, the play kitchen, instruments, matchbox cars.

After the initial shock of bare bedrooms, each day became easier. On the first day, I sat down with each child to make a list of things to do when they were bored and they never once used that list. They played together with the shared toys in the toy closet, went outside more, read, and used pantry and kitchen items to create their own restaurant. I know I’m painting a rosy picture and you could be rolling your eyes, but I’m being real when I say these two kids barely noticed their toys were gone.

Observations

As my husband and I observed their play and realized the affect wasn’t as dramatic as anticipated, we recognized two things: A. This ‘consequence’ might not be that effective since they didn’t miss the toys and B. Our kids need a lot less toys than we think. When our kids were able to get toys back, we slowly added them; each child choosing 3 toys a day. It was incredibly telling to see what each kid picked: some of their choices were expected and others unanticipated.

Selling and Donating

As time went on, our oldest decided he wanted to part with some of his toys for good. He sold Lego kits on Facebook Marketplace and donated toys he decided he no longer wanted. As an experiment and incentive, we decided to offer money for toys donated. If one dollar is worth more to them than a toy, the toy probably didn’t earn space in their room. Many toys went out the door and with each one toy clean up became quicker and the overwhelm diminished.

Reflections

Was taking all our kids toys away a good thing? For our family, yes. I’ll be honest when I say I was a bit worried, skeptical, and anxiety ridden those first few days. But, it challenged us all to do with less and it was good.

Prior to the goodbye toys day, we had been pretty minimal when it came to toys, or so I thought. However, we still had overflowing bins and about 5,000 too many Lego pieces. This was an opportunity for us and our kids to recalibrate and decide what was enough and what toys they really enjoyed playing with on a daily basis. Turns out, the shared toys are toys they really enjoy and those toys foster playing together. Blocks, magnatiles, instruments, matchbox cars, a doctor kit. These toys saw and continue to see a lot of action as the kids play with them together. For us, getting rid of the excess toys allowed our kids more time together.

I want to be clear that there is still bickering…on a daily basis. They are kids after all: learning to problem solve and get along and learning how to be unselfish (this is so hard). But, it’s different than the bickering we saw before the goodbye toy day. It’s mostly productive and the kids are doing the good work of childhood: learning how to be a person living with other people.

Moving Forward

Moving forward we hope to slow the stream of toys coming in. My husband and I became a little lazy when it came to buying our kids toys pre-goodbye toys day. There were times we purchased toys unintentionally, which does not align with our values. We are hoping to get back to the basics: toys at Christmas and birthdays and possibly for challenges or goals met.

When toys do come in through other sources (and they will), we will use the one in, one out rule. Anytime a new toy comes in, another toy goes out. My husband and I practice what we preach in this area with the things we bring into our home. One swimsuit in, one swimsuit out. Four pairs of socks in, four pairs of socks out. One coffee mug in, one coffee mug out.

We have already seen how fewer toys have impacted our kids in positive ways: less overwhelm, less time cleaning up, and more purposeful play together.

A positive impact of the goodbye toys day for my husband and I has been monetary. When our son was selling his Lego kits for a fraction of what he or we paid for them, it gave us a wake up call to realize how much money we spent on temporary toys. Moving forward we hope to purchase less toys. When we do make toy purchases for birthdays and Christmas, we are going to experiment using Facebook Marketplace and Ebay for gifts. We know this won’t be easy because Amazon in two days is sooooo convenient. But, it’s definitely worth a try.

In Conclusion

Our kids still have toys. They are not deprived. They are not sitting in empty rooms. Our kids have enough for our family and our lifestyle. Our goodbye toys day was an exciting, unexpected turning point in our simplicity journey and one that helped us learn more about who we are as a family and what we value.

We value time together going on walks and reading and bike rides and dancing to music in the kitchen. We value saying yes to family ice cream dates and new books and using our resources to make memories traveling together.

Every single family is different and every family’s ‘enough’ looks different. Taking away all the toys won’t work for everyone. For some families, it could look like paring down to half the toys or letting go of 5-10 toys. Or it might look like rotating toys from a toy closet. Or maybe it means simply being intentional about what toys come in from here on out. Intentionality when it comes to toys has been an incredibly valuable way for our family to do with less and have more time for what matters.

How can you be intentional with toys today?

What I’m Loving in June

We are in the thick of summer, friends. Swimming holes and popsicles and lazy afternoons and slow mornings and the beauty of green grass and blue sky. It’s been awhile, so today I want to share what I’m loving right this minute in the midst of sweet, sweet summer.

What I’m Loving in June

Quarry Afternoons

This year I am trying to get our kids to our local swimming hole as much as possible. We have been making time for it despite the sand and three loads of laundry that comes with it. My three oldest kids are at a point where they can swim and I can be a spectator and cheerleader for the most part. Our youngest, at two, still needs constant supervision to make sure he doesn’t wander off back to the car to open and close the van doors. It’s his favorite thing right now. Because my husband is working from home (one of the good things that came out of covid), I can leave Jack home during nap time and take the oldest three swimming. It has been magical and it makes me hope quarry afternoons never end. This is at the top of my list for what I’m loving in June.

Apple Watch

My husband gifted me an apple watch for Mother’s Day. When I opened it, I was quite surprised as it was unexpected. I’ll be honest when I say I wasn’t sure I wanted to keep it. I didn’t want a mini phone on my wrist to tempt me. However, I’ve been pleasantly surprised. What I’ve loved most about it is being able to track my movement and make and meet fitness goals. I’m highly motivated by a ‘carrot’ and ‘closing the rings’ each day for calories, movement, and standing has helped me be more aware and intentional with how much I’m moving my body. It has inspired me to go on more walks throughout the day, something I have been wanting to do, but didn’t think I had the time for. Now I make time because I want to close the rings. I know it’s silly, but I’m enjoying the way my watch helps me to take action and move each day.

Fresh Food

Summer is for everything fresh. Our Old Tree Farm CSA has been wonderful, as always, at sharing their beautiful, ripe, yummy produce with us. We have been making goat cheese salads with farm fresh hard boiled eggs, roasted asparagus, and chicken salad sandwiches with spicy micro greens. If you’ve never tried a CSA, but love fresh, local food, I highly recommend you try it! It’s so fun to get different ingredients each week and to try new things. If a CSA share is too much of a commitment for you, go to a local farmer’s market and buy all your produce for the week. It’s fun and supports local farmers right in your community.

Planning Travel

This summer we don’t have much for travel on our calendar. A trip to the state fair, a staycation, and a road trip to see family is about it. After our Intentional Living Experiment, it feels good to stay put for a bit. We are starting to plan travel for this fall and next year and it’s one of my favorite things. Choosing Airbnbs, booking flights, scoping out what to do locally. All of the groundwork before the trip lights me up. This fall we are taking our oldest on a trip alone with Mom and Dad. We have been planning this trip with him and it’s been super fun to plan our adventure together.

Growing

It’s a funny, curious thing to watch a plant grow in summer. A tomato plant, with enough water and sun, will grow tall and branch out. It will form small round balls of green that turn to orange that turn to red. The plant will produce a thing to eat, to nourish, to enjoy. I love watching things grow in the summer. Day lilies, hydrangeas, zinnias, tomatoes. The abundance of color and the miracle of things growing is something I can’t help but love right now.

There is so much to love about this time of year. What are you loving in June?