A Simpler Motherhood

Favorite Small Shops for Small Humans

Shopping small and local is something I do when I can. I’m not a purist, but I love to support local people creating, hustling, and doing good things.

Since Baby Boy will be joining us (hopefully) tomorrow, I have picked up a few sweet things for him as we anxiously await his arrival. These are some of my favorite shops that could be small, could be local, or could be both. Here we go…

Littlefield Co.

A sweet Momma runs this shop and is expecting her fourth babe any day now. Faith is a creative, Jesus-loving wife and mom who started this little shop this year. She handcrafts beautiful pacifier clips, teethers, and teething necklaces right here in Iowa. All her things are beautiful and our little guy has a pacifier clip ready for him when he gets here.

Lou Lou and Company

Although this shop isn’t local, it’s a new favorite of mine. Lou Lou and Company puts together newborn essentials every mom would love. The fabric is soft and stretchy and comes in the most beautiful colors. I mentioned last week I am bringing their newborn essential set to the hospital with me. They recently released a separate line that is dreamy and I hope to pick up a few pieces when Baby Boy grows a bit.

Oh So Vera

If you’ve been around here long, you have heard me mention Oh So Vera. A small shop located in Lincoln, Nebraska, Oh So Vera creates twirl dresses, leggings, and headbands for littles. I picked up a few pairs of leggings for Jude when he was born and I am planning on using them for this babe as well. I also found a new pair during their sale this spring and they still have some left in 0-3 months. These leggings are soft and just so stinking adorable.

Baby Jude sporting Oh So Vera leggings. Baby Boy is going home in the same outfit.

Briar Handmade

This shop is just about the sweetest. Their bonnets are lovely and make me want to have all the babies. They had a sale this spring and I ordered Baby Boy a neutral one he can where the rest of the summer and into the fall. Check them out.

Do you have any go-to shops for babes? I would love to hear!

5 Things in My Hospital Bag

It’s about time. We are about two weeks out and I am thinking about the items needed when Baby Boy decides to arrive. This is my fourth child and I remember back when my oldest was born and my bag was packed embarrassingly early. Things are a little different this time around, but I am definitely trying to be intentional with what’s in my bag so our stay in the hospital is as comfortable as possible.

Lou Lou Ultimate Newborn Bundle

I am obsessed with how Lou Lou & Company’s material feels. It is incredibly soft and stretchy and the color ‘Leo’ is blue for boy, but not too blue. (Unfortunately it’s sold out, but the ‘Finley’ and ‘Hayden’ colors are other favorites.) My mom gifted this set to me and it is already washed and packed. I love the sweet detail of the buttons on the knotted gown and the swaddle blanket, hat, and mittens are just too much. These will get worn constantly those first days, weeks, and months.

Delivery Robe

I didn’t have a delivery robe for my first two babes, but with my last I wised up and purchased one. With my third I was induced and am so glad I brought one along. Kevin and I walked the halls for about five hours and I wore it over my hospital gown. I felt much more like a person. It was also great to throw over my nursing tank when visitors stopped by. It is definitely in my hospital bag again.

WashGarden Herbs – AfterEase

A good friend recommended this for after birth pains and I am not one to say no to help with that. It has good reviews on Amazon and isn’t super pricey. It’s worth a shot.

Albion Fit Jetsetters

I have never had a baby in the summer before, so I have been debating what to bring for comfy clothes once baby is here. In the past I have done leggings and big, flowy pajama bottoms. This time I am bringing jet setters. They fit me now under my belly and I love the comfortable material. And the fact that they don’t wrinkle is an added bonus. I am also going to throw a pair of leggings in for good measure, but I have a feeling I will be wearing these on repeat in the hospital and beyond.

Belefit Postpartum Corset

My doctor has already told me I have diastis recti. If you are unsure what that is, check out some information here. I had a small separation with Jude, but she mentioned it is pretty wide this time around. I will start some intentional exercises to help when I am able, but in the meantime I am going to try the corset. Many moms do binding and the corset is semi-similar. I am planning on wearing this home from the hospital to help with my diastis recti as well as back support.

Tell me, do you or did you have any must bring items to the hospital?

Simple Gifts for Kids

‘Momma, this one’s my favorite.’  Lily holds up a 1980’s blonde Barbie with an unrealistic plastic waistline sporting a high ponytail and bangs.  The same Barbie I dressed and redressed over and over in my childhood.  She played with her for a few minutes and then went to play with her brother’s Legos.

simple gifts for kids

My mom brought all my Barbie paraphernalia from my childhood for Lily to play with and after about two days, she wasn’t playing with any of it.  It sat untouched in the corner of her room.  So I did what any minimalist mother would do and boxed up all of it except for her two favorite Barbies.   What I really noticed when the Barbies were brought into Lily’s life was that even with ALL the accessories and clothes and furniture, none of it really seemed appealing to her.  Once I took the excess add-ons away, she played with her two ‘favorite’ Barbies and coaxed her little brother to join in.

Research on Kids and Toys

Research conducted by The University of Toledo in Ohio studied children playing with a certain number of toys.  They discovered children were more focused and engaged in creative play when they were given fewer toys to play with.  British research also reported an average 10 year old child owns around 238 toys, but only plays with 12 daily.  (Honestly, that sounds about right, right? It is a more extreme version of Pareto’s 80/20 principle, kids play with 5% of the toys 95% of the time.)  Experts on the ground doing the research on kids and toys are telling us our kids actually thrive with less.  What if we started to believe them?  What if the toy collection was narrowed to the essential five percent?

I am most definitely not an advocate for no toys.  In fact, if you come to my house on any given day there are plenty of toys, many times all over my living room and kitchen.  I step on a toy airplane or car more often than I’d like, but we are trying to move towards less.  With Christmas right around the corner, I think it’s a good time to think about moving towards less toys for our kids.  Not so we can punish them or limit them, but so we can help them thrive and create.

3 Gifts

Our tradition for Christmas is each child gets three gifts to mimic how Jesus received three gifts from the wise men.  This has come to be a worthy tradition because our two oldest know this is how we do Christmas and their expectations are set accordingly.  This won’t work for every family, but you can always rethink what you’ve done in the past to cut back on the amount of toys coming in on December 25.

Some questions to ask:  What is a reasonable number of gifts for our family?  What are two or three small changes we can make this year to make this season more about presence and less about presents?

Simple Gifts

As our kids have gotten older, we are no longer able to get them what we want to get them (big heavy sigh here).  They now have more specific wishes and dreams and requests.

As our little people grow, so do their opinions.

We try and stick within certain constraints and there are just some things that aren’t going to happen on our dime (like a second Lego train for our oldest).  But, we don’t want to miss the point and only get them small shop wooden toys we think they ought to like (been there, done that).  We want them to be excited and for Christmas morning to be magical, and we also want them to play with their toys.

Here are some simple gifts we have found to be both exciting and get played with long after the wrapping paper tornado is taken to the dumpster.

Magna-Tiles or Picasso Tiles

These things get played with daily (with ages 1-6).  Jude received some for his birthday and we have added to the collection because they are, by far, the most played with basket of toys at our house.  We also added these cars to the mix and they are an accompanying favorite (which are sometimes repurposed as rollerblades).  These tiles get a lot of use and kids are using their brains to create.  These are the top toy at our house.

simple gifts for kids

Wooden Train Tracks

We have two boys, ages 6 and 21 months and they both still love wooden train tracks.  They will play with these for hours, especially if Daddy will set up a track in the living room that goes under furniture.  If you have boys in your home, these are a great gift.

Doll House

Lily received a wooden doll house similar to the one linked above last year for her birthday.  It sat lonely for awhile, but now it gets played with often.  It is a simple design, which allows for lots of creative play.  I see this sticking around for awhile.

Wooden Blocks

These blocks get played with so much.  They have been used to make towers, roads, parking lots, houses, and things my kids don’t have words for.  Our kids’ favorite thing to do with them is make roads and drive little cars all over them.  This is a pricier toy, but so worth it.

simple gifts for kids

Lego

Our kids are all-in when it comes to Lego.  I would love for Luke to only want the classic kind to create and recreate, but he really loves the kits, so it’s a compromise.  The classic Lego are more open ended, but Luke plays ‘Lego City’ with all his kits, so there is still some creative play involved. Lego=Classic

Books

I know.  This is a no brainer.  But, I had to include them because my kids always love a new book.  Here are some of my favorite Christmas books to gift:

The Polar Express

The Sparkle Box

Little Blue Truck’s Christmas

Christmas in the Big Woods

And here are some of my favorite classic books to gift that my kids love:

Boxcar Children (We really only like the first one.)

Winnie-the-Pooh Series

The Little House Series

My Father’s Dragon

I’m all ears.  What about you?  What are some simple or not so simple gifts you are planning to gift your kids this year?  Please share in the comments.

Shops I Love to Support

As shopping season approaches and store catalogs fill our mailboxes, I want to take a breath before diving in to start checking things off my shopping list.  I want to take a breath and see if there are places where I can spend my money that will do more good, help my community or the great big world we live in.  I am thinking of small shops, the kind that help real families pay their bills and feed their kids.  Yes, I shop at Amazon and Target and T.J. Maxx, but I also try and shop small when it’s possible and when my budget allows.  The list I compiled includes small shops I love and are mostly geared towards the women in your life.

Here they are, shops I love and why I love them…

Wax Buffalo

It is no secret I am a Wax Buffalo fan.  I have mentioned these yummy smelling candles numerous times.  These candles are hand poured in Lincoln, Nebraska and are pure soy, meaning they burn clean and won’t leave any toxins in your home.  And the main reason I love them is because they smell heavenly and are made right down the road.  Consider gifting one of their Christmas collection candles or one of their new winter scents this year.  They make great hostess gifts or for-anyone gifts.  You won’t be disappointed in these, friends.  And bonus points because you are supporting a real pregnant momma and her family.

Alice and Adams

This small shop makes the sweetest dresses.  They are my new go-to shop for dresses for Lily.  Three things about these dresses:

  1. They are super twirly, perfect for your girly girl.
  2. The fabric is soft and there is barely a wrinkle when I hang to dry.
  3. Their prints and colors are always on point.

Buying these dresses supports another momma and her family.  It’s a win all the way around.

Dear Mushka

Have you seen this jewelry friends?  Dear Mushka is a shop with a big heart.  They are family owned and their jewelry keeps God’s truth at the forefront.  Each piece is rooted in God’s word and comes with a corresponding scripture card.  A few favorites of mine: the Kinship necklace, the Twinkle necklace, and the Goodness earrings.

Lovewell Handlettering

Are you looking for a cute sign, ornament, card, notebook or decorative map?  This is your shop.  Piper creates beautiful hand lettered pieces from Lincoln, Nebraska.  I own many of her signs and her notebooks are some of my favorite items to gift.  This a perfect spot to find gifts for the girlfriends in your life.

Direct Sales anyone?

We all have friends who are slinging goods as a side hustle.  Mary Kay, Rodan & Fields, Beautycounter, Noonday, Young LivingSseko.  Buying from people we love supports them, their families, and their business.  I think it’s the perfect time of year to see if you can check some things off your list by buying from those closest to you.  And if you love the products from the companies above and don’t have a rep, shoot me a message and I will connect with you with one of my girls who has a side hustle.

Books

If you’re going to shop on Amazon, why not give the gift of books?  Books help support both authors and their families and give the gift of learning and enjoyment.  Here are some of my favorite gift books for this Christmas season, some of them new, some of them oldies but goodies.

Bread and Wine: A Love Letter to Life Around the Table with Recipes by Shauna Niequist

This book is perfect for any foodies in your life.  The recipes are simple and straightforward and delicious.  It is the only cookbook I keep on my counter and open weekly.  I love the way Shauna uses storytelling to connect meals around the table with everyday life.

Cozy Minimalist Home: More Style, Less Stuff by Myquillin Smith

Have a design lover on your Christmas list?  This book is beautiful, insightful, and simply laid out.  I have been a fan of Myquillin’s work for years and this book is both a pretty for the coffee table as well as a good read.

The Ministry of Ordinary Places: Waking Up to God’s Goodness Around You by Shannan Martin

I’ll be honest, I have not read this book.  However, I have listened to so many people I respect say such good things about it.  It’s on my Christmas wish list.  I think this is a great book for a mom friend in the trenches of motherhood.

The Nightingale: A Novel by Kristin Hannah

If you have a fiction loving friend, this book is a no brainer.  The plot is thick and hooks the reader within the first few chapters.  I couldn’t put this one down and I’m not sure many people can.  And the paperback is less than $12.

The Giver by Lois Lowry

I reread this book this year and I am still thinking about it months later.  If you have a young teen to buy for this year, I highly recommend this book.  Classic.

Daddies by Laci Morrissey

This book is both timely, simple, and has an important message.  The rhyming text engages young children and the pup illustrations are beautiful.  Although it portrays some tough realities for families that might not have an earthly Dad, it points us to the truth that we all have a Father in heaven.  My cousin, a mom of two with one on the way, wrote the book and I know her heart for this book is for others to know the hope of Jesus.

If you need more book ideas, check out my summer and fall book lists.

Whether you’re shopping for a sister, cousin, niece, or friend, I think there is something on this list for every woman in your life.  Please share any other small shops you love in the comments.

Happy Shopping Small, friends!

Favorite Kid Clothes

Some kids care what they wear, others simply don’t.  As you might know by now, my Lily girl cares what she puts on her body.  Whether it’s a twirly dress with tights or leggings with shorts layered over them, she enjoys getting dressed….and then getting undressed and dressed again.  She has her favorites and wears them often.

Like Lily, I enjoy dressing all my babes in cute, subtle clothing (the color gray comes up often).  I savor the days each kid has their hair done and the clothes they pull on are without blemish.  I usually take a picture or two on these days.  (When I am absent from Instagram it’s because my kids haven’t left the house and they are still wearing their pajamas and bed head.)

Favorite Kid Clothes

Some favorite clothes and shops come to mind when I think of dressing my littles.  These are my go-tos, the clothes my kids wear often, weekly if not more.

Dressing My Girl

If you follow A Simpler Motherhood over on Facebook, you may have seen the video about Lily’s capsule wardrobe for this spring.  A few of Lily and I’s favorite items in her wardrobe are her Oh So Vera dresses.  These dresses are comfy, twirly, and can be dressed up or down.  Lily wears them on playdates with her light up sneakers and to church with her gold boots.  For Easter, we ordered the new ruffle dress in sage green and it is absolutely beautiful.  Lily loves the twirling and I love the simplicity of the dress.  If you’re looking for versatile pieces that will last, Oh So Vera is a great place to start.

Tea dresses are also a favorite at our house.  While most of them don’t twirl quite as well as the Oh So Vera dresses, they are beautiful and wear so well.  Some of the tea dresses in Lily’s spring wardrobe have been worn by two girls previously and are still in great condition.  Although they are a little pricey, you get what you pay for.

Dressing My Boys

Let’s move onto boys.  Because we have been blessed with loads of hand-me-downs, my boys don’t need much.  Most of the boy clothes we actually buy are from H&M or Gap.  When I can get to one, Nordstrom Rack is another place for durable boy clothes.  For Jude my favorite clothing item, by far, are his Levi jogger pants.  They hug him in all the right places and make his belly protrude, which is my favorite thing in the world right now.

For Luke, pants are hard.  His waist screams 2T, but his legs are more of a 5T (barely).  This kid is little and I already feel sorry for him because he is going to struggle with clothes.  He is itty bitty.  H&M is the best place to find pants for him.  If I can find something that says ‘skinny’, I pick it up because there is a good chance it will fit my Luke.  He has some skinny jeans similar to these from H&M and they have been worn and worn and worn and still hold up great.  I don’t wash them often, just when absolutely needed.

When we have to buy clothes, I try and be intentional about finding items within our budget as well as trying to shop locally.  Unfortunately, I haven’t found a great local shop to buy clothes for older boys, yet.  Oh So Vera supplies boy leggings, which Jude wore almost daily when he was under six months old.  He has since outgrown them.  If you have a place you love to buy boy clothes, I would love to hear about it!

These kids wear their favorites a lot around here.  What are your favorite clothes for your kids?

Favorite (Simple) Family Resources

Consuming blogs and books and podcasts has helped me to learn and grow and figure out what works for my family when it comes to simple living.  There are a million ideas and lifestyles and ways of doing things out there.  I enjoy reading and listening to how other people do life and what they have learned along the way.

I have compiled a list of some of my favorite simple living resources specifically for families.  We have three littles and simple living looks a bit different for us than it does for a twenty-something with no kids.

Favorite Family Resources

Here are some of my favorites:

Blogs

Becoming Minimalist is a blog written by Joshua Becker.  He covers simplifying, decluttering, and presents lots of compelling research and statistics on the topic of stuff, consumerism, and the impact of simplifying.  He also loves Jesus, so I’m a big fan.  A few favorites to get you started: 15 Clutter Busting Routines For Any Family8 Reasons Successful People Are Choosing to Wear the Same Thing Everyday, and Why Fewer Toys Will Benefit Your Kids.

Simple As That is a blog I recently found written by Rebecca, a momma of four.  She has a team of writers, so there are always new perspectives.  She writes about motherhood, photography, food, travel, and her pictures are so pretty.  Check out If I Had To Do Over, I’d Still Do These 5 Things As a Mom and What If All I Want for My Kids Is An Ordinary Life?

Although The Art of Simple is changing a bit and broadening their topics to include more than just simple living, the archives are FULL of great pieces about simple living.  There are incredible articles on family life, travel, and home.  Tsh Oxenreider is the creator of this community and I’m not sure I could love her any more.  Some of my favorite posts include: Children Need Unstructured PlaySaying Yes, and 9 Ways to encourage your kids to live simply.

Okay, I need to tell you about one more.  Erin Loechner is one of my favorite online ‘friends’.  She is a momma of two and undeniably real.  Her writing over at Design for Mankind is heartfelt and breathtaking (really) and she teaches me so much.  Check out: Playtime at Home: A Creativity Reset for the Littles and Up for Air.

Books

Back to Joshua Becker.  You have heard me talk about him SO much.  His book Clutterfree with Kids is laid out simply and is incredibly easy to read.  Becker gives us the why behind showing our kids a simpler life as well as practical advice.

Simplicity Parenting by Kim John Payne and Lisa Ross is my favorite parenting book.  If you have been around me long, you have heard me talk about this book.  It’s not just about decluttering, but presents a simpler lifestyle for our kids.  I can’t recommend this book enough.

Organized Simplicity is a super easy-to-read book on living an intentional life and organizing your home.  It was Tsh Oxenreider’s first book and it’s a quick read if you really want to dig in and make some big changes.

Podcasts

Allie Casazza is a mom of four who has written a plethora of blog content, created courses on simple living, and is now putting out a podcast called The Purpose Show.  She is super passionate about moms finding joy in their motherhood.

Denaye Barahona has a P.H.D in child development.  She talks about simple living with small kids on her podcast Simple Families.  Although I don’t buy into everything she talks about, she has a lot of wisdom when it comes to kids.  I take bits and pieces from what she says to incorporate into my family.

The Edit Your Life podcast is co-hosted by two women who discuss getting rid of the unnecessary to make more room for the awesome.  They talk about an array of topics and although I don’t listen to every single one, they have a vast archive to go back and find episodes on practically anything.

I hope you can find something of value from this list of my favorite resources for families when it comes to simple living.  What are some of your favorites?

Favorite (Simple) Blogs and Podcasts

If I am cleaning or walking or mowing the lawn (the grass is turning green!), my earbuds are in and I am listening to a podcast.  Listening to podcasts is one of my favorite things to do when I’m not caring for babies.  A good article on one of my favorite blogs makes nap time a bit sweeter.  I enjoy consuming information on simplicity from the gurus and savor listening to a good podcast whenever I can sneak it in.  Today I thought I would share my favorite blogs and podcasts when it comes to simple living.

Blogs

Becoming Minimalist

Joshua Becker has been writing about minimalism for years on his blog, Becoming Minimalist.  There is a wealth of information about living with less on his site, I could spend all day clicking through the articles.  He is a Christian and I appreciate his desire to get past the stuff and be intentional about living a meaningful life.

The Art of Simple

Tsh Oxenreider is a world traveler, writer, and simple living guru.  She is a real person, too, with three kids.  She, along with other contributors, write about living a simpler life at The Art of Simple.  Tsh recently broadened her writing genre and is writing more about other things she loves, but there are tons (and tons) of articles on living a simple, intentional life.  If you scroll to the bottom of the page and enter your name and email, she will send you a list of her favorite posts and podcasts.  Speaking of podcasts, her’s is on my list as well.

Design for Mankind

Erin Loechner is a sweet momma and designer who writes about life with her husband and two littles.  Her words are inspiring and lovely and she has the absolute best taste (just check out her pictures).  She has been vulnerable and real and honest with what she writes on her blog.  I know you will love it.

Podcasts

The Next Right Thing

Emily is an incredible writer and speaker, this I know for sure.  She has some bestselling books and speaks all over the country about being a soul minimalist.  She has created a podcast where she talks about ‘making room for your soul to breathe’.  It’s so good, friends…packed full with wisdom and practical tips.  And they are only about 10-20 minutes, so they are a quick listen.

The Simple Show

The Simple Show features my girl, Tsh, as well as three co-hosts (Erin Loechner being one of them).  They have talked in the past about saying ‘yes’ and ‘no’ to the right things and now they are diving deep into other topics such as how to consume the news, what to listen to, and travel.  I look forward to these every week.

The Happy Hour with Jamie Ivey

Now, Jamie doesn’t talk about simple living, but I couldn’t not have her on the list.  She is so good, friends.  Jamie interviews women from different arenas. They talk about big things and small things and you feel like you’re right there with them, hanging with some girlfriends.  I couldn’t suggest this podcast anymore.  Also, she just released her first book, If You Only Knew.  I devoured it on my trip.  Check her out, you won’t be disappointed.

There they are…my favorites!  I hope you find something in there you love. What are your favorite blogs and podcasts?

Five Favorite Simplicity Books

Whenever you read a good book, somewhere in the world a door opens to allow in more light. —Vera Nazarian

We are a family of readers, so far anyway.  Kevin and I spend the early morning quiet hours engrossed in books and Luke and Lily like to make a stack of books on the couch and read book after book after book.  It is yet to be seen if Jude will join us.  His interest in books includes carrying them around and throwing them.  #thirdchild

Recently I had a pile of simplicity books on my nightstand in my bedroom and on the end table in my living room.  I reread my favorite simplicity book and found a new favorite.  Today I’m going to share my top five simplicity books along with a runner up.

The More of Less by Joshua Becker

Joshua Becker is one of my favorite minimalists to read.  He has two kids and loves Jesus.  This book is completely practical, but gets down to the why on simplifying and getting rid of the stuff.  You can find more of his work over at: becoming minimalist.com.

Soulful Simplicity by Courtney Carver

Courtney Carver is the creator of Project 333, a movement to live with less clothing, 33 pieces for 3 months to be exact.  In her book she writes about her multiple sclerosis diagnosis and her need to eliminate stress and her desire to live a more intentional, more love focused life.  I am newer to her writing, but I loved this book.  I love how she integrated storytelling into practical ways to live with less so you can have more time for the good stuff.

Simplicity Parenting by Kim John Payne

I have read and reread this book so many times.  I am in love with the simplistic approach to parenting.  I know not everyone would agree with my thoughts and ideas and that’s okay!  Being different is good!  However, I do think every parent could take away something from this book.  It’s insightful and backed by research.  I make it a point to reread this book every year.

Clutterfree with Kids by Joshua Becker

Another book by Becker and it hits all the highlights of decluttering and purging with kids.  If you’re looking to pare down and you have kids, this is a must read.

Notes from a Blue Bike by Tsh Oxenreider

Tsh is a favorite author of mine.  She doesn’t know it, but I view her kind of as my simplicity coach.  Notes from a Blue Bike is laid out storytelling style and I couldn’t love it more.  Tsh has lived around the world and she uses her experience to craft a book full of wisdom and practical tips and tricks to live a more intentional life.  She discusses food, work, travel, entertainment, and education.  And it’s all good.

Seven by Jen Hatmaker

Seven is my runner up.  Not because I don’t absolutely love it, because I do. I love Seven and Jen.  I just borrowed the book from a friend awhile back, so it’s not in the picture or my library (I might have to change that).  In Seven, Jen introduces us to her experiment to get rid of the excess.  One of her experiments included only eating seven types of food for a month. Another experiment she only wore seven pieces of clothing.  (Can you imagine??) She turns the ‘American dream’ upside down and it’s a bit shocking, highly motivational, and super enjoyable and witty.  Classic Jen.

If you’re looking for a simplicity book, these are some good ones to start with…there isn’t a bad one in the bunch.  What are your favorites?