22 Simplifying Tasks for 2022: Part 2

2022 is in full swing. Everyone is decluttering, setting goals or words, simplifying, and ready for a fresh start. I love this time of year and the feeling of hope that comes with it. Let’s keep the momentum going with 22 Simplifying Tasks for 2022: Part 2.

22 Simplifying Tasks for 2022: Part 2

Clear a surface.

In my humble opinion, clearing a surface is the best thing we can all do for our homes and our brains. Visual clutter causes stress and reduces focus. We can improve our mental health by simply clearing the dining room table. Choose one surface to clear and keep clear. A kitchen counter? The dining room table? The kitchen island? The coffee table? We don’t need allll the surfaces clear, but one or two can make our homes and brains more peaceful.

Make a list of meals.

Getting dinner on the table can either be joyful or drudgery. Some of us love it and others of us just do what needs to be done. Making a list of meals we can use and reuse over and over can be beneficial for people in both camps.

Each season deserves it’s own list of meals. Since we are smack dab in the middle of winter, think warm, comforting foods your people will eat. Chicken noodle soup with biscuits, Beef stew with roasted carrots, Ham and cheese sliders with roasted broccoli, Change Your Life Chicken. You get the idea. I usually make a list of 10 meals I can rotate through every two weeks. You may need more or less depending on your family’s preferences.

Rethink the furniture.

Most of the time when we think of decluttering, the small stuff comes to mind. Trinkets and pens and dishes and toys. But big things make a big impact. Rethink the furniture you have in your living spaces. Is there a piece of furniture not serving your family that could go to a new home? Or maybe a piece of furniture isn’t working in one room, but can solve a problem in another room? Rethinking our furniture can make a big impact in our spaces.

Start a new rhythm.

With winter comes short days and long nights. With fewer daylight hours and colder temps, we are inside more this time of year. Beginning a new rhythm can bring a bit of comfort and joy to our days and weeks. What is something that could bring a little joy into your world? Maybe it’s lighting a candle each morning or evening when the sun isn’t up. Maybe it’s pizza and a movie on Sunday nights before the week begins. It could be turning on twinkle lights and reading for ten minutes after the kids go to bed. Or maybe it’s inviting friends over each week for soup and games. Starting a new rhythm is one small way to be intentional with our days.

Drink more water.

60% of our bodies are made up of water. We need water to survive, function, and thrive. Many of us don’t get enough of it. While how much you need can vary depending on a variety of factors, The U.S. National Academies of Sciences, Engineering, and Medicine recommends 11 1/2 cups for women and 15 1/2 cups for men daily.

Grab a large water bottle and make an ounces goal. I have a 30 ounce water bottle. I try to drink two full water bottles before 8 a.m. each day. And then I drink and sip as the day goes on. Staying hydrated always makes me feel like my best self.

Launch a Daily Delete.

Most nights after the kids go to bed, I pull out my phone and delete unwanted photos from the day. Some days there are no photos and other days there are loads. This simple practice keeps my photos in check and allows me to not feel overwhelmed by the tiny camera in my back pocket.

Call a loved one.

The art of a telephone conversation has been lost a bit with texting and messaging and emoji-ing. I’m not super good at it myself. However, whenever I call a loved one and have a conversation, it fills me up. Who is someone you would like to talk to, but haven’t in awhile? Take some time and make the call. It’s always worth it.

Try a No Spend week or month.

Last spring I did a Low Buy month, which is a version of the No Spend idea. You can find more about it HERE. There are lots of simple living enthusiasts doing a No Spend month right this minute. If you want to start small, try not spending for a week. If that seems impossible, try putting boundaries on what you do spend. For example, maybe you decide to only spend dollars on groceries. Or maybe it’s groceries and gas.

When our family did a Low Buy month, it allowed us to get really clear on where we were spending money as well as where are impulses were. This isn’t for everyone, but is a worthwhile challenge if you’re wanting to change and hone in spending habits.

Declutter and organize a pain point.

We all have a spot in our home that drives us bananas. The drop zone where everyone comes in the house. A storage space. A (not so neat) child’s bedroom. The toy room. The kitchen utensil drawer. Name the paint point in your home and finally tackle it. What are the things needing done? Write down the steps it will take to get that space from pain point to functional. Next, make time for those tasks on your calendar and than follow through and get. them. done.

Take a break from social media.

Whether it’s a day each week or an entire week or month, find some time to disconnect. I am off social media each Sunday and it’s such a good reset for me. I am hoping to do another long term break this year. Do a gut check and decide what kind of break from social media would be beneficial for you. Maybe it’s a day each week or maybe it’s an entire month. While social media is useful and entertaining, it can also be distracting and harmful to our mental health. Taking a break helps us to reflect on what is good about it as well as have more time for the people right in front of us.

Set a timer and play with your kids.

There are moms that love playing with their kids and moms who don’t love it as much. I am in the latter camp. I like to connect with my kids in other ways, but since play is important to them, I do my best to make time for it. Setting a timer to play cars on the floor with my boys is good for all of us. We can be present and enjoy one another and we also know the expectations of the timer. If playing with your kids doesn’t happen as often as you like, a timer is a good way to begin.

A new year means we have space to shape the days ahead into what we want. Let’s be intentional and lean into how we want our hours and days to look. What simplifying tasks will you try in 2022?

22 Simplifying Tasks for 2022: Part 1

New. Fresh. The Present. 2022.

It’s a new year, a fresh start, and there is no better time than the present to simplify and begin anew. Today I’m sharing 22 Simplifying Tasks for 2022: Part 1. Since 22 tasks would be overwhelming, I have broken this post into two parts and Part 2 will go live next week. Some of these tasks are decluttering projects that may take anywhere from 5 minutes to an hour and some tasks are simple ideas to make room for the good stuff.

My biggest hope in sharing these tasks is to motivate us all (myself included) to take one step towards a simpler life and make more time for what really matters. If nothing on this list speaks to you, let this compilation inspire you to create your own task or tasks to take on in 2022.

22 Simplifying Tasks for 2022: Part 1

1. Declutter the junk drawer.

Pull everything out. Get rid of old documents, broken pens, parts for an unknown something. Only place things back in the drawer that are supposed to be there and organize in a way that makes sense for you. If you followed along with the Post Christmas Purge, your junk drawer is already decluttered.

2. Take a walk.

It’s cold. I get it. It takes a little extra motivation for me to get out and walk when it’s below freezing. But, bundle up, crank up your favorite podcast, and get moving. Maybe even try and walk a few times a week to get the blood flowing. The fresh air and sunshine always give me a renewed perspective. I whole heartedly believe walking is the number one thing I can do for my health right now.

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3. Tackle the shoes.

How many pairs of shoes are enough? This question needs to be answered before completing Tackle the Shoes. After deciding how many pairs of shoes each member of your family needs, make it happen. Only have shoes out that are used in the current season. Box up the flip flops and mules for spring and put them on a shelf or in a closet with a label. Leave out only the shoes your people are wearing right this second. This task leads to less shoe chaos.

4. Delete old podcasts.

If you’re like me, my podcast app is full of variety. And that’s absolutely not a bad thing. But there are times I have too many podcasts I’m subscribed to and am only listening to half of them. Although these aren’t taking up physical space, we see them every time we open up our app. If you’re anything like me, these unlistened to podcasts can cause subconscious feelings of guilt and urgency and even stress. Go through and delete podcasts that aren’t consistently playing in your ears. If you’re in a podcast rut someday in the future, you can always go back and resubscribe.

5. Declutter cosmetics and hair products.

We all have a random cosmetic or hair product that just didn’t work for us. If you’re like me, you sometimes hold onto said product for an exorbitant amount of time hoping that it might work someday. But that someday doesn’t come and it’s still in a drawer in the bathroom. Ruthlessly declutter cosmetics and hair products. Most cosmetics and hair products have a shelf life of a year after opening. Anything over a year that isn’t used at least monthly can go. I’m always shocked how this one little task frees up so much space.

6. Find 10 minutes for what fills you up.

We’re all busy. Life and work and kids and basketball practice and laundry. I get it. But we can’t do all these things on an empty tank. Find 10 minutes that are all your own each day and do something that fills you up. Walking? Reading a book? Sitting in the quiet? Praying? Drinking a hot cup of coffee or tea? Calling a friend? Find 10 minutes, put it on your calendar, and make it happen.

7. Plan an adventure.

Plan an adventure with your people, your spouse, or a group of friends. A summer road trip. A weekend at a water park. A few days off the grid. An adventure equals uninterrupted time and memory making with your people and I promise it’s always worth it.  Simply planning and anticipating an adventure can make you happier.

8. Do a quick clothing declutter.

Is there anything you or your kids haven’t worn so far this winter season? While now might not be the best time to do a complete winter overhaul, it might be a good time to let go of things you know you won’t wear this season. By donating winter clothing now, others can get use out of them during these cold months.

9. Clean out the car.

Our car is either clean or a disaster. There isn’t a lot of in-between. It’s hard to beat the clean car feeling. Take some time and take all the junk out, wipe down surfaces and vacuum, and then only put back what needs to go back in. We keep wipes, an extra diaper for my youngest, and jackets in the car. Although usually there is a LOT more than that in there, when it’s clean that’s what’s left.

10. Get rid of 10 things.

The easiest way to make you feel lighter: Get rid of 10 things and have your family join you. This is simple, straightforward, and elicits the least amount of groans when it comes to decluttering. Dangle some ice cream or hot cocoa when you’re done and it can be a very pleasant experience for everyone.

11. Say yes to your kids when you want to say no.

I’m going to end with this one because it’s extremely important, but also extremely hard. I’m preaching to my own little choir here. As we ease back into real life after Christmas, let’s give our kids a little extra love and grace. Take a baby step this week and say yes to one thing you would normally say no to. Yes to one more book before bed. Yes to playing cars on the floor. Sure to a trip to the playground when it’s freezing. Very well to the lollipop at the grocery store. Let’s love on our kids a bit this week as we all get back to the real world.

11+11=22 so this is where Part 1 will end for this week. Next week I will be back with 11 more Simplifying Tasks for 2022. What is one thing you can do this week to make life a bit simpler?

Post Christmas Purge

Wrapping paper strewn across the living room.  Cardboard, those annoying white plastic strips, ribbon, coffee mugs, lone Reese’s tree wrappers and fuzzy blankets.  An accurate picture of our living room after the big day.  A picture of a morning savored.

In an ideal world, the kids play happily the rest of the waking hours as Kevin and I cuddle on the couch, drink our coffee, and sneak bites of quiche and muffins.  The quiet, slow beauty of Christmas morning is one I savor each and every year.  And every year I wish it would last a teensy bit longer.

But, it doesn’t and inevitably over the next week we teeter back and forth between routine and cookies for breakfast.  If you were around before Christmas, you know we did a Pre-Christmas Purge, but it’s inevitable we need to do one after the big day as well.

From experience, I think a good Post Christmas Purge is best done the week following Christmas.  A few reasons: 1. Kids are excited about new stuff and willing to part with old stuff. And 2. It relieves some stress and frees up space.

This year I have decided to do our Post Christmas Purge a little different and have a week of high impact categories to purge so we all can free up some space and feel a little lighter.

Post Christmas Purge

Why a Post Christmas Purge?

Stuff affects us whether we want to believe it or not. Research shows clutter affects anxiety levels, sleep, and our ability to focus. I don’t know about you, but I struggle with some of those things without the clutter. I don’t need anything else getting in the way. Getting the excess out of our homes, simply put, is good for our health and the health of our families.

How does it work?

Everyday for the next seven days there will be a category of items to purge or declutter. I chose these categories for a few reasons. The first reason is because they are bite sized categories and I believe they are attainable for all of us. The second reason is because these categories will have a big impact on our home, lives, and the way we live.

The categories include:

Junk Drawer

Christmas Decorations & Decor

Toys & Shoes

Dishes & Small Appliances

Pantry & Refrigerator

Car

Books & Games

The Goal

The goal is to get our homes in better shape than they were yesterday. Progress not perfection, friends. Our primary objective is to purge or declutter. If time allows, organization comes next. Let’s not get caught up in making the space look perfect, instead let’s focus on getting stuff we don’t need, use, or want out of our homes and into the hands of others who can use it.

The Daily Process

Each day we will purge a category of items. This can be as surface level or deep as meets our time and energy capacity. Maybe you have 5 minutes to declutter the junk drawer or maybe it’s an hour. Any amount of time spent purging is time well spent.

As we purge each category, we will ask ourselves the following questions. These questions are meant to guide and get us in the right headspace to purge the unnecessary. They are progressive. If the answer is yes, go to the next question. Answer yes to all the questions? The thing can stay. If not, it’s okay to let it go.

Is this thing useful or beautiful to me or someone in my family?

Does this thing help my space feel the way I want it to feel?

If I were in a store today, would I rebuy the item?

Remember, these are guiding questions. They absolutely DO NOT need to be precisely answered to declutter anything. You are in charge! If you want to keep an item, keep it. If you want to let it go, let it go. Don’t let these questions hang you up. Skip them if they don’t work for you.

There is no right way to purge, except for the way that works for you.

If you’re in a good place with the amount of stuff in each of these categories, another option is to organize instead. Take time to organize the stuff within each of these categories so your home can function better for you and your family.

More motivation

I think we all are more motivated when we do things with a friend. Head over to A Simpler Motherhood on Facebook and Instagram where I will be sharing my daily purges. I hope you will join me over there and share your progress as well. You can use hashtag #asmpostchristmaspurge or simply tag me in your posts.

I don’t know anyone who doesn’t like a little reward for their efforts. Let’s reward ourselves for our hard work. It could look like a coffee or tea when you’re done purging for the day. Or maybe you will listen to your favorite podcast while digging through the junk drawer. Or maybe at the end of the week, you reward yourself with an adult only romantic comedy and a glass of wine. What motivates you to purge a little more? Make it happen. There might even be a few little giveaways over on Instagram for those of you who post your purging.

Are you in for a Post Christmas Purge?  Grab a garbage sack or an Amazon box. We are all going to feel lighter when we’re done!

5 Ways to Enjoy this Week

The anticipation is building as the Christmas season comes to it’s climax. I don’t know about you, but this month sure flew by for our family. Lights and gifts and gatherings and cookies. It has been magical and overwhelming and lovely and exhausting and perfectly imperfect. And there’s still a whole lot left.

If you’re like me, the next few weeks are some of your favorite. The time together. The slowness. The rush. The birth of our Savior. It’s all so good. But, sometimes I can let the hiccups and last minute whatevers get in the way of being truly present and enjoying this week and the week that follows. Today I want to share 5 things I’m going to try to enjoy this week.

5 Ways to Enjoy this Week

Prepare.

This seems a little annoyingly obvious. I get it. But, what if we do a few things in the next day or two to prepare for this weekend. What if we prep Christmas breakfast or finish wrapping the gifts or get an extra hour or two of sleep so we are ready for the 5 a.m. wake up on Saturday morning?

What is one thing you can prepare now to make sure you’re more present, rested, and ready for the rest of the week?

Do one thing that makes Christmas feel like Christmas.

What makes Christmas feel like Christmas to you? Is it baking cookies with your kids? Sitting in the quiet enjoying the Christmas tree? Driving around to look at lights? Watching a certain Christmas movie? Whatever it is, make time for it this week.

For me, watching a Christmas movie with some peppermint hot chocolate makes it feel like Christmas. A few days this week I am going to forego my to-do list in honor of making Christmas feel like Christmas.

What can you do in the next few days to make Christmas feel like Christmas?

Reminisce.

For many of us, Christmas is a time to be nostalgic or reminisce about times past. Take a moment to remember and to celebrate or grieve the past. Or maybe a bit of both. Maybe this means flipping through pictures on your phone or in a memory book. Maybe it means calling up your Grandma to chat. Or maybe it simply means quietly reflecting and remembering. Reminiscing can bring a lot of feelings to the surface, which can sometimes be hard. But, I believe acknowledging them allows for growth, reflection, and making the most of this Christmas season.

I like to look through pictures of Christmases past with our kids. They love flipping through their memory books and Christmas is the perfect time to slow down one evening and do it by the tree.

How can you find time to reminisce? There’s value in doing this both alone or with a friend or family group. How will you reminisce this year?

Embrace.

There is going to be a whole lot of joy this week. And there also might be a whole lot of disappointments, meltdowns, and what-in-the-worlds. Try to embrace it. All of it. I’m preaching to my own little heart choir here. Let’s embrace the hard and unflattering and annoying. Let’s let go of all the shoulds and go with the right nows. As we walk through our everyday Christmas moments, how can we embrace the mess and imperfect moments? How can we walk with our people through the disappointments and (dare I say) temper tantrums?

This week my mantra is Embrace. I am a realist and know this week won’t be perfect. It will be messy because I am an imperfect human living with five other imperfect humans. But they are my humans and I want to be here with them, in the mess and beauty and miracle of celebrating the birth of our Savior. This week I want to be present and embrace all of it.

Don’t forget the sprinkles.

This week comes around once a year, friends. Let’s not hold back on celebrating. I believe there is always reason to celebrate, but with Christmas there is no question. Bring out the sprinkles. Get out the whipped cream. Stay up late. Go to bed early. Let the kids eat cookies for breakfast. Make a four course meal. Have a movie marathon. Hello The Family Stone. Stay in pajamas all day. Get fancy and dressed up. Whatever matters, really matters, do it this week. Pour sprinkles on all of it because this is a special, magical time of year.

This is the only Christmas ever I will have a nine year old, seven year old, four year old, and two year old under my roof. I don’t want to forget that. I’m planning on doing all the things that matter to us this week. Movies and pajamas and lights and {extra} cookies and time together. The sprinkles will not be sparse.

What matters to you and your people? How can you add sprinkles to this week?

I love this time of year and am grateful I get to spend it with the people I love the most. How will you enjoy this week?

Pre-Christmas Purge

Christmas morning. Saying those words brings me back to my childhood. I remember sneaking out of my bed before dawn as a kid.  My brother, sister, and I would round the turn at the top of the stairs and peak around the corner at the tree in all her glory with presents scattered around the living room.  It was an extraordinary morning and almost always ended with a surprise.

My mom did Christmas well when I was a kid, keeping the magic alive and curating an environment that made Christmas morning special, magical, and full of wonder. I can maybe (maybe) tell you a handful of gifts I received on those mornings growing up, but I can absolutely describe the way Christmas morning made me feel. Safe, warm, loved, cherished, celebrated, and part of something bigger than myself.

Before we get to the magical few hours on Christmas morning, what if we prepare?  Prepare our hearts for the miracle of Christmas and our homes for the abundance Christmas brings.  The past few years we have done a Pre-Christmas Purge to prepare for the gifts coming into our home.  It is always well received because we do it under the pretense that Christmas will be here soon and others may find value in the things we no longer need or want. A Pre-Christmas purge can help us with A Simpler Christmas.

You may have seen a version of this on social media. Families are setting out a box labeled ‘Old Toys for Santa’ or a box with the child’s name on it. The idea is for kids to go through their toys and donate toys no longer used. Essentially, this is a Pre-Christmas Purge.

Maybe you are needing to implement a Pre-Christmas Purge into your home.  You see the knick knacks, the books, the Chick-fil-A-whatevers piling up.  Here is a breakdown of how our family does a Pre-Christmas Purge.

Pre-Christmas Purge

Get it on the calendar

Since Christmas will be here (like really soon), try and implement this in the next few days or week. Put it on the calendar or your to-do list in the next day or two.

I understand there could already be 1,000 things on your to-do list at this very moment, but a little Pre-Christmas Purge doesn’t take long and I personally think it’s incredibly worth it.  But if you can’t find the time, feel free to stop reading and come back after Christmas when we will do a Post-Christmas Purge.

Announce the Pre-Christmas Purge

It’s time to let everyone know. Tell your people there is abundance in the house and you need to make room for all the fun things coming at Christmas.  This would be a great time to discuss how it’s important to give to others.  We always tie this in as one of our gifts to Jesus on his birthday.  If you have littles, maybe start with having them find 10 things they would like to donate or give away.  We always start there.  Most of the time it snowballs and turns into much much more.

Get to it.

It’s time to get to it.  I think the best way to begin a Pre-Christmas Purge is by Mom or Dad initiating it.  We need to lead by example. Go to your closet, the bookshelf, or the kitchen drawers and find 10 things you no longer need. Grab an empty Amazon box and put the items inside, while talking to your family about it. Encourage each member of the family to find 10 things to put in the bin. As your family goes through items, decide if the items need to be recycled, trashed, or still have life and can go to a new home.

Praise.

After everyone has found the things they want to donate, PRAISE your people!  We all love some good words said about us, so let’s not hold back when our family has done something to make our homes simpler and more manageable.  Praise the ones you love for purging before Christmas.

Donate…soon.

Take 20 minutes and get those items out of your house.  Find a church, school, or mission-oriented organization and donate those items.  I speak from experience when I say if you keep them around, there is a good chance those toys and books and what-nots could creep back into your home.  Make it a learning experience and take your kids to help you with the drop off and grab hot cocoa after.

A Pre-Christmas Purge always makes me feel lighter and the incoming plethora of gifts from the ones we love more exciting and manageable.  It allows me to accept the gifts without thinking about where we are going to put them or how we are going to manage them.  The Pre-Christmas Purge sincerely allows me to enjoy the season a tiny bit more.

Tell me, will you do a Pre-Christmas Purge this year?  If time isn’t on your side, stay tuned for a Post-Christmas Purge coming after the big day.

What I’m Loving in December

Where do I begin and how do I choose? There is so much to love about this time of year. Here is my narrowed down list of What I’m Loving in December.

What I’m Loving in December

The Tree

I couldn’t not begin with this one because it’s simply true. Having the Christmas tree up to gaze at is one of my favorite things about this time of year. It’s also a great symbol of me letting go of control. My kids took the reins this year with decorating the tree and although I wanted to micromanage where the ornaments went, I let Jesus (and the kids) take the wheel. They did a good job and knowing they worked hard on it makes looking at it that much sweeter.

Sally Hansen Miracle Gel

When I had babies and toddlers, my nails never were rarely (if ever) painted. Now that I have a few more minutes in the day, I sometimes get the chance to paint my nails. It brings me a bit of joy and makes me feel a little more put together. It takes me about 45 minutes start to finish and lasts a little over a week. When a nail salon isn’t in the cards, this polish is a great substitute.

Time Together and Apart

Last week my husband and I got away together. It was wonderful and restful and reflective and always gives us a renewed appreciation for our babes and our life together. Before we left, we were intentional with spending quality, distraction free time as a family. Knowing we were going to be away made us more intentional and strategic with our time with our babes. Absence makes the heart grow fonder is cliche, but true. Now that we are back, I’m soaking up all the fun, festive things we will do together as a family during this season.

Goat Cheese

Okay, this is obvious, but I have been loving it {extra} lately. While I type this, I am currently smothering some goat cheese with honey on gluten free crackers. If there is something on the menu with goat cheese, I order it. If there is goat cheese at a gathering, I eat it. If there is a recipe with goat cheese in it, I try it. I indulge a little more this time of year and I never regret splurging on this treat.

A friend shared a recipe for Roasted Carrots with Candied Pecan and Goat Cheese with our Cooking Club last month. We tried it out for Thanksgiving and you better believe it was my favorite thing on the menu. Maybe because it had goat cheese? Probably. Yes. If you need a side dish, this. is. it.

Lowering the Lights

This time of year it is dark, like really dark, at our house a little before 5:00. There is part of me that is a little upset about this and another part of me that wants to embrace it. Instead of fighting back with all the artificial lights, I have been leaning into it a bit more. Our bodies weren’t meant to take in light all day. So after dinner each night, I turn off as many lights as makes sense and light candles and turn on twinkle lights instead. It slows the movement around our home and allows us to ease into our nighttime routine. Our biological clocks have been thanking us for this small practice with better sleep.

There are so many things to love about this time of year. What are you loving in December?

A Simpler Christmas

December is a day away and Christmas is close. It truly is a magical time of year. As I continue to learn and grow as a mom, my heart consistently longs for A Simpler Christmas. Our family snuggled in Christmas jammies watching The Polar Express. Delivering handmade gifts to neighbors. Reading the Christmas story with hot cocoa and cookies. Embracing both the rush of holiday gatherings and the slowness of nights at home. A Simpler Christmas allows for all of it.

What seems like just yesterday (and which was actually five years ago), I was met with the dilemma of being very pregnant with two babes, little energy, and the same four weeks in front of me.  I decided to simplify our Christmas season while holding tight to the joy and magic.  Friends, it was one of the best things I have done as a mom and is still one of my most favorite Christmases. I learned a lot that year about how I wanted Christmas to look and feel and have tweaked it each Christmas.

A Simpler Christmas will look different for all of us depending on our preferences and desires for the season. For example: I enjoy having my Christmas shopping done before December. You might love the hustle and bustle of shopping during the weeks leading up to Christmas. I keep decorations simple and limit the pretty things I get out each year. Decorating might be one of your favorite things and so you go all out. Neither is right or wrong. My hope is this list of ways our family has simplified Christmas will inspire you to find your own ways to A Simpler Christmas.

Here are some ways our family does A Simpler Christmas…

A Simpler Christmas

Simpler Gifting

If you’ve been following along with the Christmas Gift Challenge, you know I am done Christmas shopping. I had a goal of being done by Thanksgiving and I (thought) I made it this year. However, over Thanksgiving my husband and I changed lanes with a few of our kids’ gifts and made a last minute detour. All the gifts are now purchased and accounted for. I’m learning: It’s okay to break my own rules. I am excited to have gifts done and have more space to enjoy this month with my people.

Batch shopping, less gifts, shopping early, and purchasing gifts locally and online is one way I simplified Christmas gifts this year.

Simpler Wardrobes

I love for our family to look festive when we are out and about enjoying holiday events. However, dressing four kids and myself is no joke. To simplify our wardrobes, I first subtract some non-holiday clothing from closets and then add in a few pieces for the month.

The boys each have 2 festive shirts for December and Lily has some hand-me-down Christmas dresses to wear for the next several weeks. I have a dress and a festive top to wear to fun Christmas things this month. We will wear these items over and over to alllll the things. The kids also have matching Christmas jammies they will wear on repeat because matching jammies make me so happy.

Dressing our families for Christmas doesn’t have to be complicated. If we have 1-3 outfits per person, we know there is always something we can pull out to wear to see Santa or to deliver Christmas gifts.

Simpler Decorating

I want a festive, cozy house at Christmas time. But I want it with less stuff. Myquillyn Smith gave me permission to create a cozy minimalist home at Christmas.

Before I do any decorating, I subtract things around our home, exactly the way I do in our closets. I tuck away some of the decorative things I have out year round to make room for all the Christmas things.

If everything is special, nothing is special. Over the years I have slowly let go of the filler stuff and simply kept the meaningful decorations that bring us joy. The nativity from my husband’s grandma, a candy dish from my grandma, the Christmas plates and mugs, meaningful ornaments from Christmases past.

I also utilize consumable things for decorations: fresh flowers, Christmas candles, cut greenery. These things get used up during December and I don’t have to store them 11 months out of the year.

Using fewer, more meaningful decorations at Christmas time allows our homes to feel special and cozy without the stress of getting bin after bin of decorations out of the garage.

Simpler Advent Calendar

When I was a young mom with littles, many days I would forget about the Advent Calendar. This year there will be no forgetting because I have a nine and seven year old to remember for me. If you’re a mom of littles, give yourself grace with the advent calendar or simply save it for another year.

Our advent calendar is simple with activities for each day of the month. We will do three random acts of kindness for our gifts to Jesus and the rest of the days are filled with simple things like: eat popcorn and watch a Christmas movie, make s’mores, or read Christmas books by the tree. The week of Thanksgiving I planned our countdown to Christmas activities by looking at things we already had on the calendar and then planning the activities around those commitments.

I use this super simple Advent calendar to help us remember the reason for the season.

Counting down to Christmas can be both special and simple. Our kids don’t need to do all the activities and crafts and see every Santa in town, unless, of course, that matters to you. Make the Advent Calendar work for you and your family.

Home Days

This year I decided to designate Home Days on our calendar. I have one day each week we will spend at home as a family. Now of course there are other days we could be at home as well, but these days are nonnegotiable. I decided on our Home Days based on clusters of activities. For example, we have three days in a row where we will be doing fun, holiday things. On the day after those activities, I designated a Home Day. I know my crew will need a day to rest and recharge before moving on to other fun things.

I think Home Days are valuable for everyone. Deciding how many home days and how often to put them on the calendar will vary family to family. But, I don’t think any of us will regret making time and space to spend with one another at home during this season.

Simple Mealtimes

I know it’s shocking, but our families still have to eat in December. Meal planning will save me this month.  Even though it’s tempting to put planning dinner on the back burner, I know I will pay for it if I don’t.  Soups, crock pot meals, and snack trays are my go to during this Christmas season.  And no leftovers go to waste. A few hacks that will help me this month: Hack #1: Double the meat for taco night and use the leftover meat in chili the next day. Hack #2: Use leftover rotisserie chicken for chicken noodle soup or chicken pot pie later in the week. Hack #3: One night a week clean out the fridge and the snack cabinet and make up a big snack tray for dinner.

Some of my favorite meals I will be making this month: chili, change your life chicken, chicken noodle soup, chicken pot pie, butternut squash soup, and tacos (always tacos).

Giving Myself and My Family Grace

Christmas is one of my favorite times of the year and I want to take in as much as possible and enjoy the magic and wonder that fills December.  The God of the Universe coming to earth is reason to savor, enjoy, and celebrate.

I love to read a Christmas book and watch Christmas movies on the couch cuddled under a blanket with a cup of peppermint hot cocoa.  I am giving myself permission and grace to do this the next few weeks during quiet time or at night after the kids go to bed.  

Over the course of the next month there are bound to be let downs and meltdowns: both from me and my kids. I know there will be times I feel rushed, anxious or disappointed. There will be times my kids feel the same. I want to give my kids and myself space to acknowledge and feel these things and then help each other move forward to enjoy the season.

Grace upon grace upon grace for us all.

As one of the best seasons comes to life around us, I want to slow down, take it in, and make as many memories as possible.  They may not be picture perfect and there might be tears and disappointments intertwined with those memories because #life, but I’m thankful for this Christmas season with my people nonetheless. Keeping it simple can keep the focus on the real reason for the season: the baby born to save the world.

Merry Christmas to you and your family! My prayer is your Christmas is magical, full of grace, and simple!

Everyday Gratitude

Gratitude comes from realizing what you have is actually what you want and need. I tell my kids all the time we have so much to be grateful for: a warm house, good food to eat, each other. But like a prayer memorized, I can sometimes lose the meaning and power behind those words and everyday gratitude.

Sometimes real gratitude appears when tragedy happens. We hug our kids tighter or watch them sleep a little longer. Sometimes gratitude comes to the surface when we see a friend or neighbor walk through something hard. Those are good wake up calls and resets: worthy times to be grateful. I think it’s also worthwhile and powerful to find gratitude in the everyday. It’s powerful to find a few seconds each day to be grateful for a small or big thing. It’s worthy to watch our kids sleep a little longer or hug our spouse a little tighter even when nothing traumatic has happened.

Everyday Gratitude

Everyday gratitude isn’t fancy or Instagram worthy or something exciting we share with our friends. But it’s a worthy pursuit. It’s looking around at our messy, chaotic, beautiful lives and finding that what we want and need is right in front of us. Everyday gratitude requires intentionality because most people aren’t thankful for the dirty dishes in the sink or the mountain of laundry on the floor or the hard relationships.

Being grateful for our messy lives doesn’t take a lot of time, but it does take thought and on-purpose living to go from complaining to gratefulness. The reason I know this is because there are days and moments I’ve been ungrateful or haven’t practiced everyday gratitude. Many moments. And from experience, it’s not a great place to be. I’ve grumbled about the dirty dishes and the laundry and the hard relationships: sometimes in my head and sometimes to anyone who will listen. And it usually doesn’t make me feel any better. But gratitude does.

I have a lot to be grateful for and I’m sure you do, too. My husband, our kids, the roof that keeps the rain and snow out, the yard and land where my kids run and play, friends and family who love me, a Jesus loving community, food and clothes and transportation. And so much more like walks and yummy coffee drinks and curbside pick up. When I practice everyday gratitude (and trust me, I don’t practice it everyday), my attitude is positive and loving, my perspective is kinder, and my actions reflect those things.

My world and sphere of influence is much brighter when I practice Everyday Gratitude. My attitude, perspective, and actions point to Jesus, the giver of all I have to be grateful for. That’s the way I want to live.

Tell me: How do you practice Everyday Gratitude?

What I’m Loving in November

As I write this, I’m not sure the view around the farm could be any prettier. Vibrant yellows, fiery oranges and reds, burnt browns, and perfect purples litter my view. By the time this post goes live, there is a good chance all that color will be on the ground. For everything there is a season and I am making sure to savor the color and beauty around me, even if it’s just for a moment longer. Here is What I’m Loving in November.

What I’m Loving in November

Change of scenery

I already mentioned it, but this time of year is pure magic. The changing of the seasons is something I look forward to each and every year. Walks around the farm may be colder, but they sure are beautiful.

Celebrating

We party in November. Our two bigs’ had birthdays this month along with my mom and father-in-law. It’s a month long birthday celebration and it’s one of my favorite things. I love celebrating my people and November is all about just that.

Cozy sweats

I found the coziest sweats at T.J. Maxx back in September and have been living in them. (I’m sorry, I couldn’t find them online.) They are so cozy that I have been breaking all the rules and wearing them out of the house on errands around town, to playdates, even to my once a month Cooking Club. I would argue they don’t look like pajamas, but they kind of do.

Butternut Squash and Bacon Soup

There is no better soup than this one. Creamy, savory, and with goat cheese spooned in, it’s a little piece of heaven on earth. My kids aren’t big fans, but Kevin and I let it go because that leaves more for us. I serve it with homemade bread and on cold nights it’s simply the best thing I can eat.

Preparing for Christmas

I am a big fan of Thanksgiving and we don’t skip it at our house. We have so much to be grateful for. So much. However, I have been planning and preparing for Christmas this month in a big way and I love it. I am planning our calendar, purchasing gifts (are you doing the Christmas Gift Challenge?), and mapping out all the little things we will do during the month of December. We are living our best fall lives right now, but will be ready when the calendar turns to December.

What are you loving in November?

5 Clutter Free Gifts

Are you in on the Christmas Gift Challenge? Whether you are or not, chances are you are thinking about gifts for December 25. Today I want to share some gifts that won’t create more clutter for your loved ones. Gifts that are meaningful, thoughtful, and make the recipient feel loved. Here are 5 Clutter Free Gifts.

5 Clutter Free Gifts

Something the person actually wants

I know this is obvious, but sometimes it’s overlooked. Pay attention to what your loved ones talk about and mention in conversation. This works best when done all year long, but can absolutely be accomplished leading up to Christmas. Notice if there is something a loved one is needing or wanting. Emily Ley from Simplified keeps a running list of gift ideas in the Notes app on her phone. When she needs to buy a gift, she simply opens up the Note and has a list of ideas.

It’s easy to get caught up in trying to surprise or wow the recipient, but many times it’s best to get the loved one something he/she actually wants.

A consumable gift card

Coffee, ice cream, donuts, dinner. Gifting a gift card that is used for consumable items creates 0 clutter while gifting an experience for a friend or family member. If you want to make it extra meaningful, tailor it to your loved one’s favorite restaurant or local coffee shop.

Tickets to an event

As things continue to open back up, tickets to an event is an option again. All the praise hands! It’s easy to get creative with this one. Online wine tasting events, tickets to an upcoming concert or game or play, passes to a local festival or farm to table dinner. Tickets to an event gifts an experience in a creative way.

Fresh flowers, plants, candles

Who doesn’t love a bouquet of fresh flowers…especially in the winter? Send a wreath or some greenery to a family member who lives far away. Show up to Grandma’s house with a bouquet of white and red roses. Gift a plant to a green thumbed friend. Give a local candle to your sister in law. Fresh flowers, plants, and candles give joy without cluttering up a space.

Memberships and Subscriptions

We’ve all heard this one before, but it’s still a good one. Zoo memberships, museum memberships, season passes to the symphony, a magazine subscription or meal prep service. Gift a membership you know your loved one will find value in and use. A few favorites: The Durham Museum, Highlights Magazine, The Magnolia Journal. We live in a world where there is a service, membership, or subscription for just about anything we can think of. Let’s use that to our advantage and give a gift that keeps on giving long after Christmas morning is over.

What can you give this year that will create more joy and less clutter? I would love to hear your ideas for clutter free gifts!